The last few days have already been far more stressful than they need to be and I’m not feeling much like writing at the moment, so I’m going to try and keep this brief and succinct.
Just because you’re a parent does not mean that you have the right to bully and belittle your children, or your significant other.
Just because you’re a parent does not mean that you’re free of criticism.
Just because you’re a parent does not mean that in being called out on your vile, shitty behaviour you get to say things such as “How dare you judge me?”, “You’re a liar”, and essentially do the things that you’re being called out on doing whilst saying that you don’t do them.
You also don’t get to act surprised when one of your children tells you the same thing whilst also pointing out that it’s not the first time that they’ve told you about this stuff.
There is no justification for yelling, bullying and belittling your children. There is no justification for doing this stuff to one of your children who is autistic. There is no justification to defend your doing this when you get told why it’s bad.
You don’t get to say it’s none of someone’s business when you yell loud enough for the whole household to hear how you’re carrying on.
Not everyone is perfect, but this still doesn’t justify your shitty behaviour.
You don’t get to say someone is being disrespectful when you’re yelling at them, you’re telling them to shut up, leaving the room, then coming back to yell at them more. You don’t get to claim disrespect when you try your best to verbally abuse someone into submission. You don’t get to claim disrespect when someone is calmly talking to you and you’re talking over them constantly.
You don’t get to claim that someone is hard to approach and you’re uncomfortable approaching them because they politely declined offers of tea. You don’t have the fucking right to use that as justification to tell one of your daughters about issues you perceive with someone and then yell at your daughter when they forget to tell said someone.
I’m more than aware that parenting can be a difficult thing. I am also more than aware that I’m not a parent and there are usually a lot of sacrifices you have to make; especially when one of your children is autistic.
I’m aware that I’m not a parent, but I’m also aware that treating your two children in a shitty way is not acceptable. It wasn’t acceptable when they were young and it’s not acceptable now that they’re well into adulthood.
Everyone has problems. It doesn’t justify abusing people.
It also doesn’t justify a strict refusal to acknowledge the shitty behaviour when it’s brought up, even if it takes a few days to accept. It doesn’t justify not working on changing the behaviour around.
If you think this behaviour is okay, then don’t be surprised if your children cut off contact.